Tired of doing all the legwork? Find out how to get that hot filly to come over and approach you for a change.
Smile
Simple right? Looking happy makes people want to be near you. You're approachable and fun. So keep a grin on your face, smile easily and often. Think of things that make you warm and joyful and you'll exude that.
Make an Eye Contact
Don't avert your gaze or freeze like a deer in the headlights. When someone makes eye contact, either purposefully or inadvertently, simply smile. Think of yourself as the cruise director putting your passengers at ease. If you're prone to high pressure, scary thoughts about getting her to like you and not looking dorky, you'll smile like an escaped patient from the pysch ward, so think about how insecure other people might be feeling and give them a reassuring smile!
Have Objects of Interest on or Around You
Pets are such chick magnets, slogan shirts - something cute, political, funny or out of the ordinary. Books, magazines - what if you had the hottest best-seller or a cool, unusual periodical that might draw attention? The New York Times crossword puzzle is popular and, if you're feeling brave, you can ask someone nearby for help with a tough clue. Leave the porn and Guns and Ammo magazines at home or you'll narrow your attraction possibilities considerably.
Give Comment On Things Around You
Make a no-response needed observation. I.e. "Cool backpack," "I love your haircut," "Cute puppy." You get the idea. Make a good-natured, genuine observation. It can't be contrived. If she has boring hair and you say, "Killer coiff" you'll sound phoney. So locate something you genuinely find special and tell her in a way that requires no follow up. Then you've opened the door to her approaching you, without creating the impression that you're hitting on her.
Look Great
Make sure you don't look like you're trying too hard. No "lift" shoes or statement jeans. Be comfortable, but classic, clean and, of course, yummy-smelling (No heavy cologne please. Most women aren't crazy about the stuff as it's often heavy and easily over-applied).
Talk To Other People Around
By that I don't mean other women. Even the idea that you may be going from one single woman to the next until you find one that sticks will repel her! Instead, talk to old ladies, little kids and other guys. Show her what a friendly, non-threatening fellow you are! Tell someone near her how awesome their t-shirt or laptop is or how much you love the book they're reading. She'll wonder why you didn't talk to her possibly! And she'll put you in the "safe" category, not with the creepy guys on the make!
Keep Your Body Language Masculine But Open
Women like men who take up space, stand tall and fill a room. Be sure you don't crossing your legs and arms away from her, creating barriers and deflecting her attention. Be open.
It's not unusual for men and women to be friends. You certainly have female friends, and your girlfriend no doubt has male friends, but if her best friend is a guy, well, that's a different story.
You meet a woman whom you think is wonderful & your type of girl. Both of you are getting along well. However, you found out that there is just one small detail that you can’t seem to get beyond… Her best friend is a guy.
I know what you’re probably thinking … “Well, what’s wrong with that?”
To be quite frank, a lot. You see, it’s rare to find a man that’s actively looking for female best friends. (Find me one, and I’ll find you a liar.) Sex always gets in the way,. Therefore, if a guy and a girl appear to be best friends, it's necessarily because one of them secretly wants to see the other naked.
So how do you tackle this issue if you found out that her best friend is a guy?
Don't Express Jealousy
Stay cool and don't show sign of jealousy. When she initially reveals that her best friend’s name is Tony and not Tonya, expect her to search for any signs of displeasure in your demeanor. Why? It's likely that your girl has dumped many previous boyfriends because he couldn't handle the fact that her best friend is a guy. Instead, try to acknowledge how glad you are that she has good people in her life. Besides, jealousy makes you look insecure.
Meet The Best Friend
Arrange to meet her best friend. It's the only way you'll be able to accurately assess their relationship. It's the only way you'll be able to accurately assess their relationship. Does he stare at her longingly? Does she flirt with him?
You may try to ask her questions about their friendship. Did they used to date ? Does she flirt with him ? Once you gather the proper background information, you can then begin to assess his mindset. After all, your main concern is his intentions … not hers.
Be Nice
There’s no sense in being rude, or acting like you disapprove of his presence in her life. She's going to judge you based on how you treat her friends, so make a real effort every time he's around. Take the road less traveled by getting to know him. This approach provides you with a clearer sense of why she values his friendship & if you're consistently nice to him, and he's consistently a dick to you, you'll be the nice guy who's making an effort, and he'll be the jerk..
Find Him A Girlfriend
Try to hook him up with an acquaintance or two. You can even suggest that the four of you go on a double date.
Take His Place
The final step is to take his place. Be there whenever she needs you. If she enjoys his company while grocery shopping, then it’s time for you to get behind that cart and start pushing. Encourage her whenever she starts complaining about him. Be there whenever the two of them get into an argument. But remember, don't try to insult or talk bad about him in front of her. If you manage to get this done, their relationship will begin to change.
What most employees do not realise is that many executives who hire and fire are also basing their decisions on the individual's total package - presence, positivity, poise, perseverance and your professional style.
Possessing the right qualifications and talent are not important factors, but it's the way individuals present themselves that help them win instant appeal in the eyes of an employer. People who present themselves well are more certain to get noticed and will win the highly sought-after jobs.
So how would you rate in a Business Idol competition? Let the five Ps of packaging be the guiding light to your professional success.
Presence
People with outstanding presence show that they are committed to and enjoying the moment. They are energised from the inside and are intent on letting people know that they are approachable and "open for business". It is that unique factor that makes others turn their heads when these special people enter he room.
Professional style
Understanding your strengths and building on the good things you already possess. Start by asking yourself how you see yourself and how you would like to be perceived in your corporate environment. Are you the rare type who constantly projects a "can do" attitude? Does everyone know you as the person who fixes almost anything ? Or do you have a reputation for having a sloppy, almost laid-back work ethic?
Poise
Poise is more than just holding your head up high. It involves thinking about your actions and words before being swept away in the heat of the moment. Showing professional poise means taking time to think through your next move and using non-threatening, positive body language. This shows that you are in control, and it is particularly useful when your authority is being questioned.
Positivity
Being positive about your work and those around you can be tough to maintain day in and day out. The trick is to know that being positive is contagious. By behaving in an upbeat and confident way, you make others feel confident about you. Make a point of eliminating negative and antagonistic language from your vocabulary.
Perseverance
Confident people get knocked down but have enough fighting spirit to pick themselves up and battle it out another day. People who constantly persevere often realise that they have little control over circumstances. These people do not wait around to feel better. They take action to make things better.
By designing a sparkling professional package around these five Ps, you can rest assured that you are giving yourself the best possible opportunity for a perfect career score.
I know that times are hard and my company wants to keep costs down, but I feel I did very well for the company last year. How can I go about discussing a pay increment or even a promotion with my boss ?
The first step is to have a meeting with your boss to discuss your performance for last year. You may have performed very well but the company may have fallen short, which means you may not get the pay increment you expect.
Promotions and increments are not out of the question if company has opportunities to offer. But if you have not shown an interest in pursuing them, you may get overlooked.
Hence, it is essential to voice your desire to take on new challenges. However, it is equally important not to "demand" or "expect" to get those opportunities. Before the discussion, map out your discussion points by considering these questions:
Is there a specific career opportunity that you are looking at and, if so, can you articulate clearly why you deserve that opportunity over your peers ?
If there is no opportunity now, will it arise later?
Are there any gaps in your skills that will deter your boss from moving you into that role ?
Will your boss consider you in year's time for that role? What will the company do to get you there?
Sometimes, you merely need to have a conversation with your boss to know where you stand. Be sure to let him know you are eager to climb the career ladder.
On the salary issue, it might not be within our boss' authority to grant you an increment. What we are seeing in this economic climate is that companies are becoming very selective about who gets increments. But for those deemed critical to the organisation, they may get a small rise.
Long Distance Relationship (LDR) needs double effort to preserve compared to non-LDR. There are lots of thing that you have to do and refrain from doing in order to survive. But, don't worry, we have advices that you might find useful. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship.
Communication
Communication is vital in preserving your LDR. You need to increase the quantity and quality of your communication with your woman. Try getting a cheap international talktime phone card or subcribe to a cell phone plan which offers best rates in international calls.
You should schedule communication time in your calendar just like meeting that you may have written down in your diary. If you are unable to call on that day, be sure to let her know. Try closing a gap with video chat. such as Skype.com or MSN.com
Set A Goal
Before jumping into LDR, both should first plan and agree on an end goal that both can look forward to or focus on. Long distance relationships mostly fail because neither person can really see it going anywhere in the long term.
Schedule Visits
Plan a trip to visit her. Physical relations is still required during LDR. A trip to visit her every once in a while shows her that you still care, and that she’s still very important to you no matter how far away she is.
Don’t just go and visit each other though. Instead, try to create something uniquely you. Taking mutual vacations away from your respective lives creates newness in your relationship and keeps it progressing. It’s important that your relationship continues to grow, not just maintains, despite the distance.
Raise your trust level
There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other.